This post is Part 3 in the Untold Truth series inspired by my book Catch Me As I Fall: Rising from the Wreckage. In Part 1, we faced the fall—the moment when deception collides with shock, silence, and systems that fail to catch us. In Part 2, we explored what rising really means—the fragile, unsteady climb through shame, fear, and uncertainty.
Now, in Part 3, we turn toward healing. Not the kind that happens quickly or looks perfect from the outside. The quiet kind that begins inside, when everything else feels beyond your control.
WHEN THE NOISE SETTLES
After the crime, the world goes quiet.
You wake up and realize the messages from someone you trusted have stopped. The reports are filed. The bank account stays empty. And yet the noise in your mind never quits. Shame, guilt, confusion, and betrayal all start shouting at once.
Every silence feels loud. Every silence feels heavy.
You try to move forward. But simple tasks like checking email, answering calls, or trusting anyone feel like climbing uphill in thick fog.
The world expects you to bounce back.
And yet, how do you bounce when your spirit is bruised?
Very few people understand this kind of loss. Very few services see the whole picture.
Most survivors are left trying to rebuild a life while the pieces are still falling—feeling invisible, overwhelmed, and alone.
That’s why I created FLOW Journal and FLOW Circle. What I needed for myself. Not as perfect solutions, but as gentle companions for a road no one prepares you for.
A place to breathe, to feel. A place to finally not be alone and climb up from paralyzing trauma.
FLOW: A PATH BACK TO YOURSELF
Criminals hijacked the most human parts of you—hope, trust, connection, perhaps safety if fear was their psychological tactic—and exploited those emotions while they emptied your accounts. Then they vanished without a trace. Intentional cruelty we're not accustomed to.
Find Your Calm — Start small. A breath. A walk. A single moment where your body feels safe again.
Love Yourself — Not for perfection but for persistence. You survived what should have destroyed you.
Open to Healing — Let the feelings you buried rise. Sadness. Anger. Fear. Let them move, not stay stuck.
Write Your Way Forward — Give your pain and hope a place to go on the page. Writing shows you that you’re still here, still rising, still becoming.
FLOW Journal: A Companion for Healing and Renewal is available worldwide, and FLOW Circle is a mindfulness-based support group offered online at flowwithdebbiefox.com.
Both include guided reflections, videos, and prompts to help you pause, breathe, and take your next step—whether independently or in the comfort of a small peer group.
HEALING: WHAT THE WORLD CAN'T SEE
Healing doesn’t mean forgetting.
Healing means learning to live again—on your terms.
That ache survivors carry may never fully disappear. There is grief for what was stolen beyond money, and frustration knowing that justice and restitution rarely come.
Yet healing reminds you there is still beauty here. Still a future worth stepping toward. Still personal agency, strength, and choice.
We may not control the systems or the outcome.
But we can control our response, our rhythm, and the way we rise.
Each small act of calm… each moment of self-love… each step toward truth…
becomes its own form of justice. The justice you give yourself.
And when you share that healing with others—through connection, story, or compassion—you remind them they’re not alone either.
IN CLOSINGI wrote it to shine light on what happens after.
After the money is gone.
After the psychological shock.
After the world looks away.
I write to honor the quiet courage I’ve witnessed time and again from survivors who face trauma head-on and rebuild their lives piece by piece.
Healing isn’t about moving on.
It’s about moving through.
It’s the daily practice of returning to yourself, even when the world still feels unsafe.
Because no matter what was stolen, your peace, your voice, and your worth still belong to you.
From those truths, you begin again.
You rise. Like the Phoenix.
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📘 Encrypted Hearts: Love and Cyber Suspense
📔 FLOW Journal: A Companion for Healing and Renewal
📗 Catch Me As I Fall: Rising from the Wreckage
📙 100 Truth Bombs for Outsmarting Modern Fraud
👉 Advocacy webpageTo every survivor who speaks up... whether in a podcast, on a page, through art, or in quiet conversations... you are helping to rewrite the narrative.
You are not alone.
Debbie Fox
THANK YOU for reading to the end!May the stories of these courageous survivors remind us that healing is possible, voices matter, and collective courage creates change.If this moved you, please . . . Share it. Speak about it. Support a survivor.
Because awareness starts with each of us, and empathy carries it forward.
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